Two Reasons I Want to Get Home From the Conference

 

"Using My Tools Is What Sets Me. Free"

Today, one of my clients (Thank you Dr. H!) sent me a powerful WhatsApp message. What stopped me in my tracks was this:  I am realizing that using my tools is what sets me free.” 

I spent a lot of time reflecting on this, and I think he is expressing (in his own wonderful and deeply wise way) one of the key truths that I have espoused in my coaching practice: When we use our tools and stay in process we can let go of stressful and anxiety producing goals and deadlines,  while still meeting our goals and deadlines. 

The freedom that he spoke of is the freedom from worry, stress, and even obsession about outcomes and productivity. When we use the tools that get us to where we wish to go, and do so in a healthy and sustainable way, being future focused is far less necessary, and even inhibiting.

Freedom, in this sense, is related to the (Zen)Buddhist notion of attachment. Attachment to outcomes leads to unhappiness, anxiety, and stress. Living fully in the moment, or as fully as we can, leads to both wellness and productivity.

For emphasis: living fully in the moment, or as fully as we can, leads to both wellness and productivity.

This is why I am sometimes not enamored with explorations of “slow” scholarship. Slow does not mean healthy, and fast does not always mean unhealthy. Being present to our work, using our tools and staying in the moment are what lead to wellness, emotional freedom, and productivity and quality.

Sustainable Practices

Sustainable does not mean killing yourself day after day, year after year. That is consistent, relentless, or even crazy, but it is not sustainable. When I explore sustainable practices with people, we work on how to engage in habits and tools that don't harm your physical or mental health, yet lead to productivity.

You can have both. Two things can be, and often are, true. Make it your task to seek practices that lead you to meeting your long term goals while being healthy, happy, and joyful. Learn processes that you can stay in so you can forget those goals and live in the moment without anxiety. 

That is my wish for your year. 

Happy new year!