When things are not going well, it is natural (well, human) to ask "what is wrong?" What is wrong; the focus of Freud, most of your doctors, your mechanic, dishwasher repair person, and the costumer service manager that you complained to.
I am not publishing enough? What is wrong
I am not writing enough? What is wrong.
I have ideas that I cannot organize? What is wrong.
I get so anxious that I can't write. What is wrong.
I beat myself up so much. What is wrong with me that I do this.. What is wrong, what is wrong, what is wrong.
And yes, you are wise to attend to "what is wrong."
Yet, if you have made it to a PhD, no less through a PhD, you have a thousand more "what is rights" (writes) than you do "what is wrongs."
You are a bundle of capacities, strengths and resiliencies, and "goodnessess."
Fine Rich, all well and good, but I want to fix what is wrong! My strengths are fine, so I can leave them alone.
Well, my fine feathered friend- maximizing what is right is one of the most effective ways of resolving what is wrong.
Let me say this another way-maximize your strengths in service of mitigating your weaknesses.
Or another- the more you focus on your strengths, and continue to developed and grow them, better you will do.
And finally-build your strengths for greatness. Reduce your weaknesses for fine-tuning functionality.
Nuff' said.
I am not publishing enough? What is wrong
I am not writing enough? What is wrong.
I have ideas that I cannot organize? What is wrong.
I get so anxious that I can't write. What is wrong.
I beat myself up so much. What is wrong with me that I do this.. What is wrong, what is wrong, what is wrong.
And yes, you are wise to attend to "what is wrong."
Yet, if you have made it to a PhD, no less through a PhD, you have a thousand more "what is rights" (writes) than you do "what is wrongs."
You are a bundle of capacities, strengths and resiliencies, and "goodnessess."
Fine Rich, all well and good, but I want to fix what is wrong! My strengths are fine, so I can leave them alone.
Well, my fine feathered friend- maximizing what is right is one of the most effective ways of resolving what is wrong.
Let me say this another way-maximize your strengths in service of mitigating your weaknesses.
Or another- the more you focus on your strengths, and continue to developed and grow them, better you will do.
And finally-build your strengths for greatness. Reduce your weaknesses for fine-tuning functionality.
Nuff' said.
So true. The thing is, we would actually do this for others. And, yet, when it comes to ourselves, we tend to focus on the problems, the mistakes, the faults...
ReplyDeleteit is so important to be positive! This is why I do my "monthly round-ups" (initially, only for myself; but, now, as a regular blog post)! When I reach the end of the month, I often feel like I did not achieve much. But, as I start reflecting on what I did do, I realise that I actually achieved more than I initially gave myself credit for.